But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
Somethings to Ponder
*If someone asked you why you loved your husband, what would be your answer? Women would probably mention...his personality, his looks, his consistent character, or that he is a hard worker ect....
*What if over the years of your marriage your husbands stopped having theses Characteristics? Would you stop loving your husband? If it be true your basis for love is over.
* The only way love can last a lifetime is if it's unconditional. The Truth...... Love is not determined by the one being loved but rather by the one choosing to love. The name for this love is called agape.
*There are other types of Love also: Phileo (friendship) and Eros (sexual love). Both friendship and sex have an important place in marriage.
*Phileo and Eros are more responsive in nature and can fluctuate based upon feelings. Agape love, on the other hand, is selfless and unconditional.
* Is you Love for your husband based on feelings or circumstances rather than commitment? The foundation in the marriage must be Agape!
* You ask why all these broken families, all the nasty divorces???? Because their LOVE was not based upon Agape Love, but rather upon phileo, and eros.
* Agape, is God's kind of Love, He doesn't Love us because we are lovable but because He is so loving.....Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son [to be] the propitiation for our sins. (1 John 4:10 KJV)
Love...."Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things." (1 Corinthians 13:7 KJV)
This Love( Agape) does not come from within....IT COMES FROM GOD!
You must not say....I LOVE you because, but rather I Love You period!!!
Do something out of the ordinary for your husband~ Something that proves (to you and him) that your love is based upon your choice and nothing else! Be creative....Demonstrate LOVE to him for the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage.
Has your love in the past been based on your spouses attributes and behavior, or your commitment? How can you continue to show love when it's not returned in a way you hoped for?