Monday, March 2, 2009

Day 10~Love Is Unconditional



Romans 5:8

But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.

Somethings to Ponder

*If someone asked you why you loved your husband, what would be your answer? Women would probably mention...his personality, his looks, his consistent character, or that he is a hard worker ect....

*What if over the years of your marriage your husbands stopped having theses Characteristics? Would you stop loving your husband? If it be true your basis for love is over.

* The only way love can last a lifetime is if it's unconditional. The Truth...... Love is not determined by the one being loved but rather by the one choosing to love. The name for this love is called agape.

*There are other types of Love also: Phileo (friendship) and Eros (sexual love). Both friendship and sex have an important place in marriage.

*Phileo and Eros are more responsive in nature and can fluctuate based upon feelings. Agape love, on the other hand, is selfless and unconditional.

* Is you Love for your husband based on feelings or circumstances rather than commitment? The foundation in the marriage must be Agape!

* You ask why all these broken families, all the nasty divorces???? Because their LOVE was not based upon Agape Love, but rather upon phileo, and eros.

* Agape, is God's kind of Love, He doesn't Love us because we are lovable but because He is so loving.....Herein is love, not that we loved God, but that he loved us, and sent his Son [to be] the propitiation for our sins. (1 John 4:10 KJV)

Love...."Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things." (1 Corinthians 13:7 KJV)

This Love( Agape) does not come from within....IT COMES FROM GOD!

You must not say....I LOVE you because, but rather I Love You period!!!

DARE TODAY
Do something out of the ordinary for your husband~ Something that proves (to you and him) that your love is based upon your choice and nothing else! Be creative....Demonstrate LOVE to him for the sheer joy of being their partner in marriage.

Questions?

Has your love in the past been based on your spouses attributes and behavior, or your commitment? How can you continue to show love when it's not returned in a way you hoped for?

6 comments:

Tami said...

Thank you for the time you are putting in to do this. I just found this link today and am joining in on the challenge.

I have been married to my wonderful husband for 23 years - and am truly blessed. My husband pastors a Baptist church in Bismarck, North Dakota.

This is something I would like to share with the ladies of my church.

GraceFromHim said...

Good to have you here Tami! Jump right in! I am sure there is some great wisdom behind those 23 years. I am exited to have you here!

Blessings,
Brandie

GraceFromHim said...

Questions for Day 10

1) Yes, in the past, I have been a lot better in this area but I do need to work harder at this. When I don't get my way, I struggle to let go.
2) I have been better about saying sorry even when I am not the one wrong. I think for me the BIGGEST struggle i have lately is how to encourage my husband when he is down? If he has had a bad day, I try but then when I fail to cheer him up, it makes me feel bad...I feel like that is my job to encourage him.

You know the saying "If momma aint happy then no one is happy" Well it is the same with hubby. I have to remember though that "I" set the tone of the home.

Isabel said...

Well. First I must say that divorce is out of the question for us. Firstly the catholic church does not grant it amd neither does the state here in Malta. So we get into marriage with a pretty conviction that this marriage is to last forever.

However it still is easy to fall into conditional love. As for me I must adnit that I'm still madly in love with my husband, even more today that 7 years ago when we got married. However I sometimes base my repsonses on his behaviour, especially when I feel taken for granted. I must learn how to keep on be loving and supportive even when I feel not appreciated enough!

As so todays dare, I will have to postpone it becuase Im a little short of ideas and time. Maybe I'll try something over the week-end.

Isabel said...

Well. First I must say that divorce is out of the question for us. Firstly the catholic church does not grant it amd neither does the state here in Malta. So we get into marriage with a pretty conviction that this marriage is to last forever.

However it still is easy to fall into conditional love. As for me I must adnit that I'm still madly in love with my husband, even more today that 7 years ago when we got married. However I sometimes base my repsonses on his behaviour, especially when I feel taken for granted. I must learn how to keep on be loving and supportive even when I feel not appreciated enough!

As so todays dare, I will have to postpone it becuase Im a little short of ideas and time. Maybe I'll try something over the week-end.

Peggy said...

Ok, I am going to play catch up on this blog. Forgive my absence:) Good thing I take notes in my book!

On this day I cleaned out the truck and most of the garage. My husband was VERY happy. So happy, he hung up curtains for me in our room - without my asking. He wanted to do something for me too! So that was proof to me - the Golden rule really works:)
To answer the questions: Yes, I think my love has been based on my spouses behavior and his on mine. I really struggle to show my love when it is not returned in a way I hope for.