He that covereth a transgression seeketh love; but he that repeateth a matter separateth [very] friends.
Marriage is the most intimate of all human relationships. Each of us come into this world with an inborn hunger to be known, loved, and accepted.
Your mate should not feel pressured to be perfect in order to receive your approval. They should not walk on egg shells.
1 John 4:8
There is no fear in love; but perfect love casteth out fear: because fear hath torment. He that feareth is not made perfect in love.
If these are areas you have failed in it may take awhile for your mate to gain trust again. You must begin to rebuild trust. The reality of intimacy always takes time to develop, especially after being compromised.
Determine to guard your mated secrets unless they are dangerous to them or you. Talk with your spouse and resolve to demonstrate Love spite of these issues. Really listen to them when they share personal thought, and struggles with you. Make them feel safe.
How much of an effort is it for you to hold back from saying something, critical or otherwise? What have you learned about your spouse simply by listening?
Saturday, March 28, 2009
Posted by GraceFromHim at 9:27 AM